Article, Lessons from Song of Songs

The wedding night and marrying for love

January 24, 2022 - drs. G. (Gijs) van den Brink
Part 4 of 7 of the theme 'Lessons from Song of Songs' by Gijs van den Brink

The consummation of marriage is very poetically described in 4:16- 5:1. It is the heart of the Song of Songs and undoubtedly describes the sexual relationship. The bride says "Awake, north wind! Come, south wind! Blow through my court, let his balms smell. My love must come into his court, let him taste his sweet fruits there". And then the bridegroom replies "Here I am in my garden, sister, bride of mine. I pluck my myrrh and my balm, I eat my honey from my honeycomb, I drink my milk and my wine". And then the girls say, "Eat, friend and friend! Drink, and get drunk with love!"

After living for a while in the capital Jerusalem in the king's palace, the bride longs to return to her birthplace. She tries to convince Solomon to go back with her (7:12-13). And succeeding, they go back and there the fifth meeting takes place (8:5-7). Their relationship deepens again. Their love is not disturbed by anything, including jealousy and circumstances.
The girl from Sunem is in reality a daughter from an ordinary peasant family in the northern province of Galilee. A woman of simple thoughts who loves village and rural life. Solomon is in love with a woman far below his station as king. He elevates the girl to the status of queen and he himself becomes beside this queen like a child. The simple girl teaches the king simplicity. The shepherd girl brings the king to her level, to her sphere of life. The simple girl brings the king who lives in opulence with many women to pure and pure love.

Next time: Part 5 of the series 'Lessons from Song of Songs' is entitled 'Love that conquers sin'

Also see: Part 3 of 7 from the theme 'Lessons from Song of Songs' Two people in love meet 

Author: Gijs van den Brink
From: Study Bible Magazine


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drs. G. (Gijs) van den Brink
Since 1981 working as editor and author on a commentary series known as "Study Bible." First at IDR in Soest, from 1998 at the "Center for Bible Research" (CVB) in Doorn. From 1996 to 2015 editor NT of the quarterly magazine for evangelical theological reflection "Soteria". Since 2007 editor-in-chief of the quarterly theological journal "Study Bible magazine". From 2010-2011 editorial board member of Tussenruimte, journal for intercultural theology.

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